How, when and why to have performance and career discussions with your boss

Are you comfortable having a discussion with your boss about your performance and career goals? If not, it does not necessarily mean you have a poor relationship with your boss, it could also be that you are shy or awkward talking about yourself. With a little bit of preparation, you will feel more confident having a discussion with your boss or manager. What are the top five things a person should do to prepare for a discussion with...

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Nine ways to be more effective in your written communications

Your written communication can have a significant impact on an organization. One professional organization I belong to is having an ensuing battle over a topic in yahoo groups. Someone says they want to leave because they are not getting what they want out of the organization. He wrote a series of written communications that only seemed to fuel the discussion – and not necessarily in a positive way. It started out with asking...

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How to have a difficult conversation with someone

“So you are saying even being direct was not getting through to this assistant. I think asking them what they think, and if they heard what the problem is can make sure the other person heard this issue” is a follow-up comment by the reader who prompted this blog post. In this particular blog post, the boss believed they were being direct with finesse. Their interpretation of finesse was to deliver a clear message with an...

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Finesse can get in the way of effective communication

“I am usually very honest and tell it like it is at work. Honesty is the best policy. However, you have to have a certain finesse when letting someone know they need to improve on their skills”, was a recent comment received by email on Why Being Real is so Difficult. The point she is making is valid providing you are communicating effectively. I will tell you a story to illustrate what I mean. A situation arose where my...

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You Can’t Talk Your Way OUT!

Communication is the thread that holds relationships and organizations together, yet there are times when communication alone cannot resolve an issue. Have you ever acted in a manner that you later regretted or that caused a problem? You look at the issue at a later date and wished you had done things differently. Your ego may have gotten in the way and you could have said something to or about another that was inappropriate. The...

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A Huge Elephant in the Workplace – 4 Different Generations

Today communication at, work is more complicated than ever, and one of the main reasons for increased difficulty is the four different generations which now inhabit the workplace. For the first time, the workplace is dominated by more diverse age differences than before. The generations include: Traditionalist: born 1900-1945 – ages 64-109 Baby boomers born 1946-1964 – ages 45-63 Gen X : born 1965-1981 – ages 28-44 Millenials (Gen Y_...

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