Five Tips to Boost Self-Confidence
Jul06

Five Tips to Boost Self-Confidence

Let’s tackle the ugly negative talk that eats at your self-confidence with some tips on how to improve the situation. Your self-confidence can take a dive because of events in your life – loss of job, separation, divorce, failing to get that promotion – or it may lie under the surface even though you are successful. It amazes me that successful professionals and executives have bouts of self-doubt. They way they feel causes...

Read More
Make it an Inclusive Holiday Season
Nov25

Make it an Inclusive Holiday Season

Consider opening your home over the holiday season to someone that is alone. It is not always obvious that someone does not have a place to go. Most people don’t advertise it and if asked if they have an invitation they may even lie and say “yes” for fear of being judged. There are many circumstances where people are alone – living in a city with no family nearby, being a loner, moving to a new area and knowing very few people, a...

Read More
What Getting Defensive Means
Apr23

What Getting Defensive Means

The other day I was having lunch with a friend who is looking for a job and as I said something she started getting defensive. To be honest, it took me by surprise. I did not back down about what I was saying. I told her – “This is what I see, this is the behavior that is being shown to me.” I gave her specific examples of how I came to my conclusion. She was not listening to what I had to say, instead she started to talk very fast...

Read More

Setting your Intention in the New Year

Have you set your resolution for the New Year? If not, consider setting your intention instead. As I set a resolution, I am resolved to making it happen and to be honest, especially if it is a lofty goal, I fail at some point in the year. When I fail, I get discouraged….sometimes I pull myself back up and start again and other times I fall off the wagon completely. Setting your intention provides some leeway or forgiveness. It says...

Read More
Simplifying Life
Apr10

Simplifying Life

I am in that painful process of simplifying life. The last time I did it was about seven years ago when I downsized and moved into a smaller – yet very comfortable house. This time, I am selling my house and moving to a new state. Some may think…are you really simplifying life by doing that? It sounds like a lot of work. What I learned the last time I simplified life is it can be very painful going down this road. It requires...

Read More

Pattern: Comparing yourself to others

One of my clients likes to compare what he is doing to what other people are doing. Sometimes, the pattern of comparing yourself to others is productive and other times it becomes divisive in what you are trying to accomplish. For example, when he is job hunting, he wants to know why he has not found a job as quickly as someone else he knows.  After all, it only took them two weeks to find a job and a month later he doesn’t have one....

Read More