How You Say It is More Important than What You Say

It’s not what you say but how you say it. I am sure you have heard it before and maybe someone has told you that about something you said recently. You may be completely right or factual in what you said however when you put the person ill at ease, you lose. Here’s an example of why how you say it is more important than what you say: Andrea has worked with her boss for a little over a new year. Their relationship has been rocky. To be...

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What is behind an Ah Ha Moment?
Sep09

What is behind an Ah Ha Moment?

Aha, Ah-ha, or Ah Ha moments – no matter what you call it, those are the times when light bulb goes off in your head because you have a new awareness about something in your life. I have seen those moments during individual coaching sessions, team development workshops and day-to-day conversations. It’s easy to notice. The person having the “Ah Ha” moment stops doing whatever they were doing and stares into space. It is a reflective...

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How the Change Formula Pinpoints Bottlenecks

In group training, I have shared a change formula that says if the current pain level of where you are is less than the pain of making a change; you are more likely to keep the status quo. It is only when the pain of remaining in the status quo overtakes the pain of change that people make a change. During my coach training at Academy of Coaching and NLP, we were introduced to another change formula, credited by Richard Beckhard and...

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Setting a Positive Intention in Job-Hunting

One way to create good mojo during the job-hunting process is to set a positive intention every day. It is easy to let the negative parts of looking for a job affect your psyche. When you find yourself doing down that path you are more likely to feel others recoil from you and offer less help. From personal experience, it is far easier to offer help to someone who is upbeat despite being frustrated with not seeing results from their...

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How Fear Influences our Decisions

Can you think about the last time you were afraid of something? When did your fear set in? Think about it – was it before, at the time or after something happened? The interesting thing about fear according to Edith Croteau, Speaker and Life Coach, is that fear is not in the present – it is about the future. Let say you have a fear of falling. A few years ago, I fell down the stairs in my house and broke my wrist in three places....

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Giving Up and Sabotaging your Goals
Jul24

Giving Up and Sabotaging your Goals

This is a story about giving up and sabotaging your goals. I was working with a career coaching client whose goal was to develop a clear career path. She was at a cross roads. Should she go back and get an MBA or some other advanced degree or should she focus her efforts in a new career field. Ultimately she wanted to start new businesses. From a career coach’s perspective, she has a fairly broad range of career aspirations, so my...

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