Let’s tackle the ugly negative talk that eats at your self-confidence with some tips on how to improve the situation. Your self-confidence can take a dive because of events in your life – loss of job, separation, divorce, failing to get that promotion – or it may lie under the surface even though you are successful.
It amazes me that successful professionals and executives have bouts of self-doubt. They way they feel causes embarrassment. The movie in their head continues to play the same story about how they are not good enough, not deserving enough…I think you get the point. As their coach, I see the movie play out in mysterious ways – what is shared privately and openly.
Think about how each these tips may help you break inner self-talk pattern.
Focus on your attention on helping others.
If you are feeling that the world is against you, change the equation and do something that makes the world a better place. Think about how you can help someone else be successful. When we help others, sometimes we get clear about how to help ourselves.
Fix what whatever is getting you down.
Figure out what makes you anxious or insecure. Perhaps you have gain weight over the during a turbulent time. Commit to changing your lifestyle, even one tiny step at a time. Progress against your goals will improve how you feel about yourself.
Focus on improving yourself.
Stop procrastinating about investing in your own life. Develop short and long-term goals for you to achieve – professionally and personally. With a vision, you will achieve more than someone who waddles their way through life. No one else is going to do it for you. Tap into friends, colleagues and coaches to help you along the way.
Surround yourself with positive and successful people.
There is something to the adage, we are the company we keep. Successful people help one another be successful. Positive people look for the good in any situation. You will be more prone to action with encouragement.
Quit being your worse critic.
The way you see yourself may or may not be the way other see you. If there is an assumption that you believe to be true about yourself, ask a trusted friend or family member if it is true. You may be very surprised at how your self-talk does not match up with what they think or feel.
Hopefully, these five tips to help boost self-confidence will help you move forward – even an inch. Breaking the pattern of the inner self-talk or story will open the possibilities for new opportunities.
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